Earn Wings

Craving for change isn’t the routine any longer. Maybe you don’t know what is, and maybe you won’t ever, but the virtue of believing that there is, won’t stop you from trying. In tribute to that which remains unknown, here is a short poem.

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Earn wings
not to strike
but to shift from one to another
for life is nothing but particular.

Earn wings
to be patient
it isn’t what you’ve gone through
but what you’ve done
what you were before “it” happened
and what you are now after it’s done.

Earn wings
don’t dwell in the past
they prick
they hurt
they don’t caress
the truth is
they just blind you to think you’re not the worthiest.

Earn wings
for there will be complications
it’s life, not your world of expectations
nothing works out the way you want
so what?
stop the cringe when
you cry when you want to
anger when you have to
those are complications too
but as easy as they come
don’t succumb to those who can’t forgive.

Earn wings
your goals will never end
they come and go
the answer lies in those trying moments
when you know you need to start letting go.

Earn wings
replace the nest
to become a crest
against the immovable
the dishonest
and guess what
you know the rest.

Why Are We So Insecure About Ourselves?

Do you find yourself stuck between feelings of resistance, doubt, confusion, and at the same time self-morale? That’s your mind telling you to string your loose ends of insecurity together and to get back on the horse because life proceeds only in one point of compass, and it doesn’t stop for you. We are so frustrated with the achievement part, the productive part or even the fulfillment part of life that we’re unknowingly casting a shadow over how things really are instead of what we see people get out of them. Our brains have learned to measure and not matter in experiences that are inevitably labeled and not perceived.

What isn’t making you insecure makes you stronger. And what makes you insecure, realizing that it does, also makes you stronger. The problem with insecurity is that it’s either all or nothing at all- so the only way humans can embrace insecurities, vulnerabilities, and whatever is by looking at the gray areas that account for what you do rather than what you get out of what you’ve done.

The thing about insecurities is that they’re not, in their truly real state, coming closer to an absolute “secure” point if humans act on it. They just keeping on swelling persistently until there comes a moment that destroys everything that you love or that loves you back. Artistic realizations compel you to do more and achieve more, but when in reflection of how artistic you are- that’s where we begin to answer our most challenging questions. Questions such as:

  • Who are you when no one’s watching?
  • Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be?
  • Do you think you’re enough for yourself to live with?

While these questions are better answered by experiences than by words, it is through words that we train ourselves, without any external cultivation about life that really matters. The solution to societal and media schooling of how it wants you to look like, feel like, and portray like, we don’t need to abolish the system. Instead, let’s try thinking from the beginning. Let’s start worshipping not what has been taught, but what’s out there to grasp. It’s simple to have been told by others the ways of living as much as it’s easy to listen and not act on what you are possibly going to believe in. But that doesn’t mean you can’t say no.

Robert Downey Jr. says “Listen, Smile, Agree. And then do whatever the fuck you were gonna do anyway.”

Why Are We So Insecure About Ourselves 01

It’s not difficult to solve your problems, what’s difficult is deciding which of YOUR problems are actually YOURS. There’s beauty in solving problems while there’s absolute disgust when you don’t accept and truly understand the only thing you’re born with into this world, your mind, and your soul.

Stop looking at magazines, movies, and other sources of visual information as means to obsess over and feel insufficient about. Not everything is about you unless you’re actually there. Get over yourself, and go do something that matters genuinely instead of building up imaginary standards for yourself from robotic life, boredom, or simply of the loss of you.

If you’re feeling insecure because of rejection:

Understand that life, inevitably, leads us to either negative or positive outcomes, just like any other chain reaction. Any feedback aggravates retaliation, but the thing to remember always is that that’s not it. There is more. If there isn’t already, then make it for yourself; limitation is just a word and it’s all in your mind but if it isn’t your door, stop knocking.

If you’re feeling insecure because of what others want you to become:
Be willing to let people down because you’re no longer their idea of perfection when perfection itself is such an incomplete concept. Accept yourself, struggle to learn, fight to grow and then live to reflect positive qualities in yourself, then in those around you.

If you’re feeling insecure because YOU want everything:

Don’t let emotions, cravings, and materialistic things affect you. Everyone has dreams, everyone wants things in their lives, but that’s not something to feel bad about. It’s a choice, not a privilege. You are not any less or any more than the person sitting next to you who’s got everything you feel insecure about. Insecure people will always disapprove of what is and consistently accuse their minds by making others feel like shit. That’s aggressively self-inflictive, if you really think about it.

Reasons why you aren’t confident and the ONE REASON why you are.

We always look for reasons to stress on the negative or unfavorable aspects in our lives: we’re pessimists by day and night, but we still believe that there is good to fight for (with yourself) in this world. And that is one of our greatest assets. We have our reasons to killjoy positivity, even for a second, but we have mastered the art of ‘getting-it-together’ brilliantly. And to have like a multiple reasons that lead to your lack of self confidence written on a piece of paper, or published in an article: is both reassuring that you have them and supporting because you know you’re not the only one on the field.

We have our reasons to killjoy positivity, even for a second, but we have mastered the art of ‘getting-it-together’ brilliantly. And to have like a multiple reasons that lead to your lack of self confidence written on a piece of paper, or published in an article: is both reassuring that you have them and supporting because you know you’re not the only one on the field.

Now, remember, all these are not relevant for one individual; these are spanned across different situations and under various lifestyles. You can either find one or five reasons that you relate to out of all that are mentioned below. I hope you don’t feel all of them to be relevant to you. I hope.

Reasons for your lack of self confidence:

  1. Thinking in a different manner than other people [you know].

  2. Choosing to walk on a distinct path than the rest of your peers, family members, etc.

  3. Being aware of the known fact that people gossip or talk about you behind your back.

  4. Age difference [spending time with someone who is either too elder or younger than you].

  5. Meditating a simple life.

  6. Repeating the same daily schedule again and again, every day.

  7. Sexual preference.

  8. Lack of knowledge about certain issues, general facts, etc.

  9. Knowing it all.

  10. Lack of social interaction.

  11. Failing to achieve a standing (or stature) at something after preparing hard for it.

  12. Comparing your financial and social soundness with peers, family members, etc.

  13. Choosing an unexampled career path.

  14. Failing to achieve some professional abilities due to any personal or circumstantial reason.

  15. Believing that ignorant behavior is greatly culled during incidental events [personal or otherwise].

  16. Being unable to cope with change at any given time.

  17. Not willing to adapt or grow in the sense of interests of/for other people.

  18. Not willing to accept other peoples judgements and remarks. And taking them at heart.

  19. Bearing a damaging childhood/past.

  20. Failing at a test that others have so effortlessly passed.

  21. Having parents that you do not have a good connection with.

  22. Being misunderstood by people most of the time.

  23. Failing to change a certain aspect about yourself [or your life] after several painstaking efforts.

  24. Comparing physical appearance with somebody else.

  25. Religious differences.

  26. Getting divided attention by somebody you prefer/love/enjoy most with.

  27. Not being able to stay fit and happy by yourself.

  28. Surrendering to activities and beliefs you once cherished due to any reason.

  29. Not being able to comprehend and handle your emotional and physical needs.

  30. Not being sexually experimental with your partner.

  31. Not being patient enough for the life that you always dreamed of.

  32. Not being able to provide for someone you love or are responsible for.

  33. Not being able to cope with stress as you intended.

  34. Comparing yourself [your life, ambitions, money, everything] with your elder or younger siblings or close ones.

  35. Believing in occupational inferiority/superiority.

  36. Having an unsteady educational history.

I’m tolerably sure that these must be lone 36 reasons out of a 100 because these are not facts, but just mental reasons that are conceived or imagined by us. But, nevertheless, these are the primary standpoints of low confidence or self-esteem that we pick up on.

 Now, what?

 I’ll sum up all the awesome reasons of kick low self confidence [and esteem] in the butt with one reason. This reason beats all those I’ve mentioned above and many others that you might have for yourself.

  1. You’re different and be proud of it. Not everyone chooses the same things; failure is a process, not a ruination. And finally, confidence is not having to give a care about any of that because you realize what your strengths and weaknesses are along the way and beat this: you are born alone and you die alone. Be unique and grateful and you’ll always will be you.