Reasons why you aren’t confident and the ONE REASON why you are.

We always look for reasons to stress on the negative or unfavorable aspects in our lives: we’re pessimists by day and night, but we still believe that there is good to fight for (with yourself) in this world. And that is one of our greatest assets. We have our reasons to killjoy positivity, even for a second, but we have mastered the art of ‘getting-it-together’ brilliantly. And to have like a multiple reasons that lead to your lack of self confidence written on a piece of paper, or published in an article: is both reassuring that you have them and supporting because you know you’re not the only one on the field.

We have our reasons to killjoy positivity, even for a second, but we have mastered the art of ‘getting-it-together’ brilliantly. And to have like a multiple reasons that lead to your lack of self confidence written on a piece of paper, or published in an article: is both reassuring that you have them and supporting because you know you’re not the only one on the field.

Now, remember, all these are not relevant for one individual; these are spanned across different situations and under various lifestyles. You can either find one or five reasons that you relate to out of all that are mentioned below. I hope you don’t feel all of them to be relevant to you. I hope.

Reasons for your lack of self confidence:

  1. Thinking in a different manner than other people [you know].

  2. Choosing to walk on a distinct path than the rest of your peers, family members, etc.

  3. Being aware of the known fact that people gossip or talk about you behind your back.

  4. Age difference [spending time with someone who is either too elder or younger than you].

  5. Meditating a simple life.

  6. Repeating the same daily schedule again and again, every day.

  7. Sexual preference.

  8. Lack of knowledge about certain issues, general facts, etc.

  9. Knowing it all.

  10. Lack of social interaction.

  11. Failing to achieve a standing (or stature) at something after preparing hard for it.

  12. Comparing your financial and social soundness with peers, family members, etc.

  13. Choosing an unexampled career path.

  14. Failing to achieve some professional abilities due to any personal or circumstantial reason.

  15. Believing that ignorant behavior is greatly culled during incidental events [personal or otherwise].

  16. Being unable to cope with change at any given time.

  17. Not willing to adapt or grow in the sense of interests of/for other people.

  18. Not willing to accept other peoples judgements and remarks. And taking them at heart.

  19. Bearing a damaging childhood/past.

  20. Failing at a test that others have so effortlessly passed.

  21. Having parents that you do not have a good connection with.

  22. Being misunderstood by people most of the time.

  23. Failing to change a certain aspect about yourself [or your life] after several painstaking efforts.

  24. Comparing physical appearance with somebody else.

  25. Religious differences.

  26. Getting divided attention by somebody you prefer/love/enjoy most with.

  27. Not being able to stay fit and happy by yourself.

  28. Surrendering to activities and beliefs you once cherished due to any reason.

  29. Not being able to comprehend and handle your emotional and physical needs.

  30. Not being sexually experimental with your partner.

  31. Not being patient enough for the life that you always dreamed of.

  32. Not being able to provide for someone you love or are responsible for.

  33. Not being able to cope with stress as you intended.

  34. Comparing yourself [your life, ambitions, money, everything] with your elder or younger siblings or close ones.

  35. Believing in occupational inferiority/superiority.

  36. Having an unsteady educational history.

I’m tolerably sure that these must be lone 36 reasons out of a 100 because these are not facts, but just mental reasons that are conceived or imagined by us. But, nevertheless, these are the primary standpoints of low confidence or self-esteem that we pick up on.

 Now, what?

 I’ll sum up all the awesome reasons of kick low self confidence [and esteem] in the butt with one reason. This reason beats all those I’ve mentioned above and many others that you might have for yourself.

  1. You’re different and be proud of it. Not everyone chooses the same things; failure is a process, not a ruination. And finally, confidence is not having to give a care about any of that because you realize what your strengths and weaknesses are along the way and beat this: you are born alone and you die alone. Be unique and grateful and you’ll always will be you.