The Scrutiny of Restricted Worldliness

Leo Tolstoy wrote in his beautiful work War and Peace, “Everything depends on upbringing.”

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A child’s personal identity, biologically and physiologically, unique and gentle – the years that create long and inevitable passages of perspective – are found and lost right from the start. It is a part of a metaphorical maze, that a child shouldn’t meander alone. The discipline of unraveling diverse and visceral cultures – that which also includes threads of languages and chronicle of events – is more important to be felt by a child rather than learned. This sparks imagination as much as it does temperament. But how soon is “the right time” to impact a child’s inner nature with stimulus resistive and nullifying, while also being realistic?

This question is deeply exemplified and astutely apparent in Black Mirror’s Arkangel, which is the second episode of the latest fourth season. The ability to blur out graphics that might elevate Sara’s cortisol levels, like in the episode it was the neighbor dog who barked incessantly whenever Sara walked past, sheds light on the general idea of parenting in this world. Anything that is considered, by the society, of course, a potential danger or stress-inducing experience to the community increases a sense of fear, anxiety, and mental and bodily distraction in children. A few examples pointed out in this episode were the suffering and finally death of a grandparent, porn, blood, or violence. Anything that stunts emotional growth, or at least is believed to, leads to the disorientation of the thing that constituted that kind of restrictive technology itself.

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This begs you to answer a question – what you do the same for your child if you had the resources to? Such kind of restrictive worldliness has its own consequences. The upbringing based on exposing a child to only good things and avoiding and unwaveringly pushing away the bad stuff disrupts the wholeness of a child’s identity.

This reminds me of a powerful passage which extracts the importance of negativity and teaching the perspective of it in Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment, “If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place. Primary reality is within; secondary reality without.”

But just as negativity impacts a child’s emotional and mental cognitive capacity, the complex intricacies of the mind and the core human tendency are deeply impacted, and not in a positive way, without the very things that arouse negative feelings such as guilt, regret, tension, worry, and all forms of psychological distresses. In experiencing the present moment, as real and unrestricted as it may be, in either speech, thought, or observation builds a sense of present-moment awareness. This is significant, I strongly believe, in the acceptance and non-acceptance of what is. As it habitually alters a child’s inwardness toward all aspects of life, it also contributes to the child’s narrative which, unconsciously, constructs what makes each human unique.

Even though experiences, when analyzed, hold together a set of emotions in each of us, the reasoning, sense, and readiness are still left unhindered. The ease with which a child navigates the unmitigated realities of existing between choices and people is what matters. And the kind of environment parents, siblings, and relatives bring into existence for a young soul remains the serious and most important quest for parenthood.

Be Her Shadow

It’s not easy to raise a girl. She’s fierce. She’s perceptive. She’ll learn the ways of life by how you treat her and how you do not. So let it all go and be her shadow. That’s the only thing you can do.

. . .

Be her shadow.
Raise her mind.
You won’t know until you do
because she’s little known
to her ways of life.

Don’t mistake your anger for love
that’s not the dress up she knows.
Down the road,
she’ll say yes from your no
she’ll be from your all that you weren’t
that’s just how she grows.

Don’t give her playthings dressed up and fair
that’ll make her believe
she’s not as good as for such flair.
Encourage her a talent
whatever it may be.

Don’t tell her what isn’t hers
rather teach her to dream.

You don’t make her a believer,
you make her wise-
wise enough to say what is,
strong to not string along lies

Perhaps, she’ll never be like you
and why would she?
She’s a part of nature-
like a leaf that falls from a tree.

. . .

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It’s who they are in their eyes, that counts

They were playing with heated stones right under the sun’s nose, without a hint of discomfort or irritation caused by the thwarting heat, around afternoon. There was no one around the area to discourage them from playing with each other and their elders also seemed extremely calm about it. They were silent, excited and convinced about their game and they didn’t bother anyone around as well. When I went up to them to ask their names and request pictures, it felt as if they didn’t understand me speaking to them but they loved my attention. It was comforting to witness them trying hard to pose and smile to the camera when they didn’t even know who I was and the purpose of my attention towards them, but they did what I told them to do, nevertheless.

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They looked at me as though I was the one they were waiting for to click their pictures and make them laugh. I tried to request them that they keep playing their games, which was what they called ‘stick and stones’, but they didn’t understand me well and stopped playing for some picture time. I wanted some shots of them running on stones while smiling and laughing, awkwardly, around one another, enjoying some time before they were to attend to some chores as they resided in slums but I got these candid shots instead. These are the best ones as well!

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These remind me of the way one chooses to live life: while there are problems faced due to poverty, hunger, unemployment, etc. in their homes, there is that place where you stick a smile and share a laugh around those who you feel comfortable with. Because then, you’re not only sharing your joy, you’re sharing your struggle without having to say it out loud.

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Solitary world

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An understanding that is constantly evolving

On the streets of Mumbai, you find kinds of people, some strange, some arrogant, most self-involved and few free-thinkers. But one thing that the people of Mumbai have in common, struggle and determination which is fueled by the will to become the next big thing! I read somewhere that in life the most important thing to do is to sacrifice what we are for what we could become, which means that you have to unhinge part of your morals and thinking only to become better and work until you see yourself a better woman. When I look in the mirror I often refrain from standing by on ‘ifs’ because it destroys my inner peace, so to be better I elude away from self-criticism, the world outside my room is full of it.
The reason of my writing is to make my readers believe that if you want to get somewhere, you have to begin from the least of all labor; you may be a taxi-driver for 5 years and still make it big in the next 5 or you may be out on the street begging for money and clothes and still make it successful later in life. Miracles happen, you do succeed, no matter where you start from people! There are stories, true stories of people like us making it big, becoming fortunate and eluding away from ways otherwise considered unhealthy. All you need to struggle and determination, lots of it!!

 

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Everybody has their own struggle

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Struggle is a part of life. It isn’t the struggle that make you artists, it’s the tolerance of it; this tolerance comes from maturity which owns no age, what is wants is patience and positivity. We are one in a billion, just like the stars we see in the sky, you fixate on one star among thousand others you see; if we relate this to the different problems we face, we understand that fixating on one problem in our lives, makes it more clearer and it makes you more tolerable. One problem at time just like one star in the sky.

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Remember today

The possibility of this city being at its best can sometimes get into every inch of management based on annoyance, compromise and productivity. Mumbai is a very important part of Maharashtra, without Mumbai, Maharashtra would be just another state with lots of flora and historic visits. Mumbai made Maharashtra famous; it made this state a complete dynamic of diversity.

‘Dynamic of diversity’ is quite a broad concept if I dwell on its true facts and understandings. Two questions that I always ask myself, they are ponderous enough to make me want to divide this chapter into two halves; what Mumbai is? And What Mumbai actually is? This isn’t about the answers that we are supposed to give; it is about the answer that every living soul in this city has to answer without having to answer it pre-planned. Such questions have to be asked in a hurry, the answer expected usually is long, brief and informative but the actual answer is short, only by words, not sentences. The short ones are usually related to words of fantasy, imagination and pure creativity. It is the way a person would like to tag Mumbai with. Just like how we tag photographs, articles, websites and books, there are various words that are fitting enough to tag this city. The long ones are usually related to the truth, actual facts, honest and blunt remarks about Mumbai. It is the way a person personally visualizes Mumbai from past to present, and sometimes even the future; it is a long and touching description not about Mumbai wholly but also about the way that person has taken control of himself/herself and adapted to this wonderful city.

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